Whether you’re a stay at home or working mum, chances are you’ll experience a loss of confidence and self-belief at some point during parenthood.
Becoming a parent is one of the toughest roles in life, often with little thanks, recognition or acknowledgement. This can result in loss of identity and feeling under-valued and worthless as a person. However, the more you undertake or achieve something, the better you become at it and the more positive and confident you will feel. Recognising your accomplisments, and realising that you’re not alone in experiencing set back, self-doubt, guilt or negative thoughts, provides you with a sense of relief, achievement and empowerment. Achieving and acknowledging success, whether large or small, improves your confidence, self-esteem and self-belief.
Here are some ways to feel confident and in-control of your life:
- Establish a strong personal foundation, vision and goals.
- Think and act positively – avoid or overcome any negative self-talk, limiting beliefs or unsupportive habits.
- Acknowledgement any feelings of guilt by writing them down then decide to let them go or do something about them.
- Acquire skills that support your personal and professional growth.
- Gain through giving – get involved in community groups, volunteer, work or physical activity.
- Spend time with positive, supportive and inspirational people
- Set yourself small, simple, achievable goals everyday
- Overcome any fear of failure (and success)
- Fake it until you make it – practice and take one step at a time
- Be true to yourself – live and act according to your personal values
- Focus on your strengths, passions, natural talents and abilties
- Live in the present and be grateful for what you have in life right now
- Be kind to yourself and others
- Take daily action or do something differently – one small, simple change has the power to transform your life
- Focus on and acknowledge your accomplishments, achievements and success
- Avoid negative and unsupportive people and activities that drain your time or energy
- “Feel the fear and do it anyway”
- Support your confidence with positive thoughts, visualisations and affirmations
- Learn from positive role models and inspirational people you admire or aspire to be like.
- Never compare yourself to others – do what works for you and your family
- Remember, you are not alone
By Karyn Riley